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Just like other part of the world the Women Day was celebrated in Pakistan by different female NGOs members in chilled drawing rooms and clubs where they had big fun in cursing the men. Though they would not have realized that they are spending the money given by their husbands and brothers.

Pakistani Women have no rights or Muslim Women in Pakistan have no rights, this is something you would usually here when sitting with these lonely rejected women who could not run their homes properly and left their husbands. Yes I am talking about so called Feminists. As I read on a forum:

Feminism is about man-hating women (and self-hating, when you get done to it) demanding to have it both ways … and that *everything* is men’s fault.

Women Day has become another time pass activity in Pakistan like Valentine day or Rabiul Awal day. Jut hype no actual work and worth. Newspapers were in competition with each other to publish various articles about Women’s day. While I was actually quite bored after viewing one article after article about women, I came across an interesting and refreshing piece by Mamun Adil in Sunday DAWN and he really echoes the voice of several men in Pakistan. He says:

 If you are a woman..you are probably thinking..why on earth does the world need a day to celebrate men..given the fact in most cases,whether at home or work, men are supposedly treated like gods where ever they go.

But really, in these so-called modern times of gender equality, don’t the poor men need a bit of celebration now and then?

Wow! sarcasm at its best! and I really loved the way he started his the article.  There is another satirical piece by Wusat Ullah Khan of BBC Urdu in which he really burst the bubble of women day hype.

So true. We men are presented as some monster as if we should not have been created by God. True ,Men do things with women which don’t sound good at all but then why such impression is given that only WOMEN suffer not men? and Why is it said all the time women in Pakistan enjoy NO facility at all?

One fine morning I went bank for cash with draw. It was around 12:00 PM and I was in a queue, I was in a hurry so wanted to get it done ASAP. The officer was already dealing with a woman. By the time I reach to the officer, another lady came from I don’t know where and inserted her hand in window. I just couldn’t say anything yet I got angry enough.  That was my turn yet that lady took the advantage of Ladies First thingie. Usually I don’t mind but that time I was in hurry. Someone might say that I could ask her to wait but I don’t know why didn’t I say, I just let it go but I was thinking that how usually women enjoy such ladies first attitude of Pakistani men yet we are cursed all the time. I also wonder whether the ordinary Pakistani women really complain about severe rights issue or it’s a hobby of spoiled women of Posh areas who usually run NGOs in chilled offices and hardly do anything by hand in presence of several servants(males offcourse!).

As Mamun Adil says in his article that whatever duties are performed by men, they are taken for granted. It’s not a big deal if a man is working 12+ hours a day yet he has to keep his wife in sane mood by taking her out for shopping,dinner and outing purpose. Men don’t need a good sleep. Men don’t need peace. And there is something which you will often hear:Mard Rotay Nahi that is, Men don’t cry. Who says men don’t cry and can’t cry? Men do cry because men do get hurt as well. Men are cheated too. That’s other thing that they do not whine infront of others. I have cried when I needed to and I do not feel shame on it.

It’s often said about women rights and women violence but in the era of enlightened and moderation where men are now being raped by women, such demand is a bit unfair now. What about this poor guy? I discussed this issue with a lady and I was replied that it was a single incident and women face it almost daily. I was like what?? just a single incident? I think sins start on smaller scale first and if they are not stopped, they become norm and that’s where the concept of AMAR BIL MARUF and  NAHI UNIL MUNKIR applies in. Violence against women became norm because it was not stopped at right time.

Men are enemy of women. Men don’t consider them ‘human’ and there should be gender equality. You will hear these things a lot who whine about women rights. Ironically the demand of treating women as human come from those women who themselves mistreat men someway or other but since it’s taken as granted therefore it does not matter or as if Allah does not exist for them?

It really gives me a good laugh when I hear that men are enemy of women. In reality the biggest enemy of a woman is another woman. Is it not mother-in-law(Saas) who keeps forcing her so called Lakhoun mey Ek son to burn his wife or give divorce  and bring another one who can give her a grand child? Offcourse that will be ignorance at man’s end if he fulfills such pathetic demand of her mother but since men are usually pampered by women one way or other, he doesn’t create about it and after all.. he’s  getting a chance to have another woman in his life.Similarly, is it not a woman who tries to ruin another woman by stealing her husband? Where is humanity now? why no one thinks about such jerk and bitches? Why no women whines now these women should treat other women as human?

And let’s talk about gender equality now. I just amaze at ignorance of those men and women who talks about gender equality. I wonder whether they have any idea about it or not?How on earth men and women can be equal when Allah made them different?Being different does not mean inequal. It’s just like comparing apple with oranges. You can’t! Both play their roles in society but.. who can convince these pseudo-intellectual brains who can’t even tolerate their own community members just because they have different point of view. Women! you amaze me a lot!.

It’s demanded that women are not given equal opportunity in Pakistan since it’s a male dominated society. What kind of equal rights are they looking for? If they really need so called equal rights like West then I would demand to getrid of Ladies first thing first.

- There should be no separate queue for women infront of banks.

- Pathan Bhais should not give a Baji preference over several men who had been waiting for roti for hours.

- There should be no separate compartment for women in public buses and men should not leave their seats in MEN’s compartment upon asking of bus conductor because it’s against the rule of gender equality. Yes this happens in real but how on earth those women can understand who never commuted in a public bus and spend their lives in chilled AC cars. When future lady doctors and engineers can stand on foot boards on point buses of NED and DOW then why not other women?

- Just like we poor men, the lady workers should also be asked to stay late after office times and no BOSS should hear any lame excuse like ‘Ghar mey kaam hay’. After all it’s all about equal rights , NO? You would hardly see that a boss is forcing a women to stay late at office. Most of the women leave offices on time. I remember that two years back when I was at Cybernet, all of us got stuck at office due to heavy rain. All roads were blocked and there was no way to reach to home. We stayed at office till 10.00 PM including female staff. There was a lady who were dropped by few colleagues of mine at her home. Now some pervert mind says that those men were being Tharki fellows that they got ready to help that woman. Whatever you think but the fact is that the lady was helped by other men. No NGO came to rescue her. How can they while they themselves were staying at home?But.. it’s a norm right? because we men have been made to provide 24×7x365 support to women?

Therefore, I request all those women who just talk about women’s rights all the time. Men are not having a good time either. they do suffer, they do get humiliate. they also face hardships of life. If you women are spending so much time in kitchens then we men also killing our wishes and feeling by spending more time at offices despite of we don’t want it but we are doing so that when we get salary at the end of the month and we could bring some stuff for wives and children so that they feel happy and give us a smile back. Sometimes we get so involved to keep them happy that we often try to seek illegitimate ways to earn money. If a woman is sacrificing her mornings for family then on other hand it’s man who does not hesitate to sacrifice his life,wishes and dreams for his sisters and keep earning much as he can so that he could collect lots of stuff for the dowry. It’s a  man who even gets ready not to get married unless his sisters gets married first though there is no relation of one fate with other but it’s just a way of a brother(a man offcourse) to show love for his sister. It’s not only women who need a praise. Men also wish they should be appreciated where it’s due but you will not see that often that some woman is appreciating his man yet she would always expect that should be praised(even she does not deserve it!) all the time.

So please! give credit where it’s due. I am not against women and women employment. I think I am one of those men who do think aloud that our ladies should be appreciated for what they do for us but it does not mean I just get biased and don’t think about my own male fellows.Fine, Osama bin Laden is a man but not all men are Osama bin Laden. Neither you women should act like United States of America which associate every evil thing with Osama Bin Laden I hope I will be successful to stir your brains.

Reference: What about Celebrating Men by Mamun Adil
Alami Yom-e-Mardangi by Wusatullah Khan of BBC Urdu

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